WORK WITH ME
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”
~ Pema Chodron
Watch your thoughts; they become your words.
Watch your words; they become your actions.
Watch your actions; they become your habits.
Watch your habits; they become your character.
Watch your character; it becomes your identity.
~ Mahatma Gandhi
TWENTY FIVE YEARS OF HELPING PEOPLE UNLOCK THE TRUTH OF WHO THEY ARE HAS TAUGHT ME WE NEVER STOP NEEDING TO CONNECT TO OURSELVES AND TO EACH OTHER
What if healing comes, not necessarily from brilliant insight, but rather from when clients see themselves fully in the therapist’s realness? Using transparency and vulnerability, I offer a fresh and unique perspective, showing that no matter how much of an expert I am, we are all in this struggle together. I know with every fiber of my being that the courage to be human and messy is what helps others heal and that all truth is paradox and an invitation to go deeper into life. It doesn’t hurt that I carry a bit of wisdom too.
SOME WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER…
Anxiety
Anxiety has become an ever-present uninvited guest in everyone’s world, regardless of your age, how much or little money you have, whether you’re happily or unhappily married, single, healthy, or ill. It finds people who have great careers, and it finds people who are longing for more purpose. It can also tag its way into anyone dealing with loss. I honestly don’t know a single person who hasn’t struggled with this.
It’s also one of the greatest teachers I’ve ever known!
Dark Night
And into the forest I go, to lose my mind and find my soul.
Relationships
Successful connection with your partner has everything to do with your original attachment to your caregivers. Secure attachment is at the heart of feeling safe and if we do not feel secure in our attachments with our partners it can cause us and them to feel unsafe or in danger. When we feel this danger we may negatively respond due to the fight-or-flight response being triggered. If the brain feels we are not secure or safe it immediately starts to become anxious, negatively respond, or find coping mechanisms which may not be effective. When we’re in anxiety mode, we’re more likely to participate in negative behaviors, conflicts, or emotionally driven responses.
Mother Daughter
Our daughters can be great teachers – offering ample opportunities to heal the places inside that need our own loving attention. And if you’re anything like me, there will be a lot to heal. Our early attachment style with our mothers influences the way we attach to our daughters. The way we were spoken to becomes our inner voice, and the way we speak to our daughters becomes their inner voice. The more love and connection we feel toward ourselves, the greater connection we will have with our girls.
Body Mind
Your body symptoms – whether they are chronic aches and pains, the inability to conceive, or the anxiety that pierces through have wisdom, metaphoric power, and a method to their madness. They come to you in the form of an offering, urging that you begin to go deeper. We can all learn to partner with our bodies in a much kinder way. Health does not always come from medicine, or even just the way we eat. So often it comes from peace of mind, peace in the heart, peace in the soul. It comes from laughter and love.
Fertility
We know that conception has more to do with how you feel about yourself as a sensual, sexual and fertile being and less to do with age and statistics. And how we feel about ourselves today is largely influenced by unexpressed (often unconscious) thoughts, emotions, beliefs and behaviors based on unfinished business from childhood. Those who have successfully conceived and birthed healthy babies after years of unsuccessful infertility treatments, have discovered that fertility is, in the broadest sense, a lifelong relationship with oneself.
